What to Pack in Your Bag: A Play Party Essentials Guide

So you’ve got your ticket to your first play party—or maybe you’re a seasoned pro looking to level up your game. Either way, knowing what to bring can make or break your experience. Whether you’re heading to a sultry soirée in the city or an intimate gathering with your favorite crew, packing smart means you can focus on what really matters: having an unforgettable night. 🔥

Let’s break down the must-haves, the nice-to-haves, and the “why didn’t I think of that?” items that’ll keep you comfortable, confident, and ready for anything.

The Non-Negotiables: Safety & Hygiene First

Before we get into the fun stuff, let’s talk essentials. A responsible party-goer always comes prepared to protect themselves and their play partners.

Protection & Safer Sex Supplies

• Condoms (and lots of them): Bring more than you think you’ll need. Different sizes, textures, materials—variety is key. And yes, even if you’re in a committed relationship, it’s courteous to have extras for the community.
• Dental dams or latex barriers: Essential for oral play and often overlooked.
• Lube, lube, and more lube: Water-based is safest for condoms and toys. Silicone-based lasts longer but isn’t compatible with silicone toys. Pack travel-size bottles.
• Gloves: Latex or nitrile gloves are perfect for manual play and show you respect boundaries and hygiene.

Personal Hygiene Must-Haves

• Baby wipes or intimate wipes: For quick freshening up between activities.
• Hand sanitizer: Because not every venue has a sink within arm’s reach.
• Breath mints or spray: Keep it fresh for those close encounters.
• Deodorant: Travel-size is clutch. Dancing, playing, and getting hot means you’ll want a refresh.
• Small towel or washcloth: For cleanup or to lay down on shared surfaces.

Wardrobe Essentials: Dress to Impress (and Undress)

Play parties are all about self-expression, so your outfit should make you feel sexy, confident, and comfortable. But here’s the thing—you’ll want options.

What to Wear

• Your statement outfit: Lingerie, leather, latex, lace—whatever makes you feel like the hottest version of yourself. This is your “entrance look.”
• Easy-to-remove layers: Think robes, wraps, or button-ups that you can slip on and off without a struggle.
• Comfortable shoes: Heels are sexy, but if you’re dancing or mingling for hours, bring flats or slippers as backup.
• A change of clothes: Something cozy for the ride home or if you want to switch vibes mid-party.
• Robe or cover-up: Perfect for moving between play spaces or taking a breather without getting fully dressed.

Accessories That Elevate

• Jewelry or body chains: Add a little sparkle and sensuality.
• Masks or blindfolds: For mystery, anonymity, or sensory play.
• Collar or choker: A subtle signal of your dynamic or just a fierce fashion statement.

Playtime Extras: Bring Your Own Fun

Some parties provide toys and equipment, but bringing your own ensures you’re comfortable and safe with what you’re using.

Toys & Tools

• Your favorite toy: Vibrators, dildos, plugs—whatever you love. Just make sure it’s clean and charged (if applicable).
• Impact play tools: Paddles, floggers, or crops if that’s your thing. Always negotiate consent before use.
• Restraints: Silk scarves, cuffs, or rope if you’re into bondage. Bring safety scissors just in case.
• Sensation play items: Feathers, ice cubes (in a small cooler), warming oils, or massage candles.

Comfort Items

• Your own blanket or sheet: If you’re particular about cleanliness or comfort on shared furniture.

 

The Practical Stuff: Don’t Forget the Basics

It’s easy to get caught up in the sexy details and forget the everyday essentials that’ll make your night smoother.

Bag & Storage

• A discreet, sturdy bag: Something that can hold all your gear without screaming “I’m going to a sex party!” Backpacks, totes, or gym bags work great.
• Ziplock bags: For storing used items, keeping electronics dry, or separating clean from dirty.
• Small lock: If the venue has lockers, secure your valuables.

Tech & Communication

• Fully charged phone: For emergencies, rideshares, or staying in touch with your crew.
• Portable charger: Because dead phones kill the vibe.
• Cash: For tips, coat check, or bar purchases if the venue has a cash bar.

Health & Wellness

• Any medications you need: Prescriptions, pain relievers, allergy meds, etc.
• Water bottle: Stay hydrated! Many parties allow you to bring your own reusable bottle.
• Snacks: Small, non-messy options like protein bars or trail mix to keep your energy up.
• Gum or mints: Already mentioned, but worth repeating.

What NOT to Bring

Just as important as what to pack is knowing what to leave at home.

• Drugs or illegal substances: Most venues have strict no-drug policies. Respect the rules and the safety of the community.
• Weapons: Even if you have a permit, leave them at home. Play parties are about consensual fun, not danger.
• Judgment or bad vibes: This one’s not physical, but it’s crucial. Come with an open mind, respect for boundaries, and a positive attitude.
• Expectations: Every party is different. Don’t assume you’ll play or connect with someone. Go with the flow and enjoy the experience for what it is.

Final Tips: Prep Like a Pro

Now that you know what to pack, here are a few pro tips to make sure you’re truly ready:

• Pack the night before: Don’t wait until the last minute. Check your bag, charge your devices, and lay out your outfit.
• Know the venue rules: Some parties have specific guidelines about what you can and can’t bring. Check the event page or ask the host.
• Communicate with your partner(s): If you’re going with someone, discuss boundaries, expectations, and what you’re each bringing.
• Plan your transportation: Know how you’re getting there and back. Rideshares, designated drivers, or public transit—just have a plan.
• Set your intentions: What do you want out of the night? Connection? Exploration? Just a good time? Knowing your “why” helps you stay grounded.

You’re Ready to Play

Packing for a play party doesn’t have to be stressful. With this guide, you’ve got everything you need to feel prepared, confident, and ready to dive into the experience. Remember, the goal is to have fun, explore safely, and connect with like-minded people who celebrate freedom and pleasure.

So grab your bag, double-check your essentials, and get ready for a night you won’t forget. See you on the dance floor—or in the play space. 😉

What’s your play party must-have? Drop a comment or DM us—we’d love to hear what you never leave home without!

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